Present

The present moment is something one must not forget. But one does, because one is in the habit of not fretting over things which seem unimportant but it is not so. A moment is everything, a moment is a a part of oblivion, a moment can save lives, a moment can bring about the very end.

Now when I think of it, the present doesn’t make any sense to me but for the reason that I experience it because I am conscious. The present moment is present for me because I can feel it. I can feel the second ticking in the flow of my blood. I can feel the whirl of the needle like the pounding of my heart.

But what if I was not conscious? What if I did not have knowledge about what all exists before me and around me? Would this present be of the same significance then?

Present is present because we are present. Time is time only when we can realize it.

If I die this very moment, it all would lose significance. It holds importance because we are alive, making it alive.

Such notions seem absurd sometimes but they are not so because these aspects of the universe help us in knowing, in understanding the significance of us, as well as the nothingness that we represent in the greater of things that are alive this moment.

This moment, I can feel it.. I am alive and so is this moment for me.

Present

* For Five Minute Friday.

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Changing things in life!

Why do we want to change ourselves so very often? We sometimes want to change our lifestyle, and sometimes our entire life, a particular trait in us and sometimes even our whole persona. Why is it so- we are never satisfied with ourselves? Don’t tell me the thought of being yourself doesn’t suit you. But why then are we in the habit of these so-many changes we want?

The human nature is something beyond my imagination to understand and deal with. But one thing I can say is that this nature problem of aspiring to change is present in us all. Someone wants to get change their house into a bigger one, someone wants to change his/her life with that of a superstar, someone a little chubby wants to change herself/himself into the figure of a supermodel/athlete. Why so? Why can’t we be just satisfied with who we are? And moreover, we are just aspiring to change inflicting guilt and failure in ourselves when we aren’t able to do so because sometimes some things are impossible to change. And if you really want yourself to be the one you would want to be, don’t aspire to change, just change and do nothing else. Don’t try, don’t seek, don’t think but change if you are so desperate and can’t remain at all happy with the being i.e. you.

This seems odd coming from a person who wants to change so many things in his life. Take it as my experience with the help of which I am writing this stuff. These resolutions for making yourself changed won’t lead you anywhere but in a dark  well with no light but self-inflicted harm, the harm which you are causing to yourself and the harm which you can’t avoid because of you only.

Sometimes it bugs me seeing so many guys/girls becoming artificial with those mounds of make-up or those weird wild hairstyles or with fake masks worn by them, what would it bring? You’re not changed, you won’t change because these people have so evidently made perceptions of bringing about and achieving that change in their mind which can’t be erased by anyone. I would say if you want to change, just change in the way your life becomes a more favourable experience, don’t make resolutions, don’t aspire, don’t think but change if this change is very very important to you. This life is very short, don’t waste it by spending time in the dark well where I have spent so much of my precious time. Don’t do such mistakes, there is no easy way out. Change your perception towards change- because the aforesaid change would indeed make your life more brightened. Just change when you think change is going to bring something good and spiritual in your life but not something which you just want to change because of the worldly desires.

Don’t get confused. Just remember three things-

1. Try to accept yourself in the way you are.

 

2. If you really want changes, bring about a change which would make life a more favourable experience.

 

3. If the change is not such as being said in point 2, forget it. But if you still want to change, just change- don’t think, don’t aspire, don’t make resolutions, don’t go to that dark well but just change.

What is writing to me?

Many people have asked me- What is writing to me?

Well, that’s a very simple question with a very complex answer which is dynamic in nature.

“Writing- writing is writing to me. What else could have been the best answer to this particular question?”

“To write is writing”- would it be the better answer?”

Well, I haven’t put much thought to it but I think I should.

What is writing to me?

Well, writing to me is passion, the passion to mark my words with something I feel deeply attached with. It is the passion that helps me in incorporating my thoughts in some identifiable shape which are otherwise always messed up. Writing is the passion which helps me deal with the situations in daily life. Writing- the passion to achieve the highest limit I can think of achieving to come out as a better person, a better interpreter. Writing is the passion for me to strive, struggle to reach that limit and then, set an even higher limit to achieve.

What is writing to me?

Well, writing to me is knowing, knowing myself in a better way. I can never realize rather I will never realize who I am as an individual if there was an absence of writing in my life. Writing is the way of knowing the hidden thoughts deeply set up in the intricate structures of my mind which I can only know while writing by putting them in appropriate words. Writing is the way for me to know my ambitions, what I want to achieve in life. What I write is real- my writing denotes the real me. Writing, therefore, is a way of knowing everything I want to know. That is the easiest way I can formulate all this much into.

What is writing to me?

Well, writing to me is expressing, expressing myself to me. Well, expressing myself in general is knowing myself. But sometimes it becomes so much difficult to know yourself even through writing, it is the time when you have to express yourself without giving a second-thought to what comes to your mind from within your heart, you just write and write- thereby expressing yourself. It is such a beautiful exercise but deeply addicting- it may be of great significance but may be it would show you the side of yourself that you couldn’t know- the side which had been hiding which all of a sudden sprints out, the resultant thoughts may not be so pleasant.

What is writing to me?

Well, writing to me is reading, reading what I want to read. Now that is surely going to confuse you. But yes, its true. It isn’t complex. Writing to me is reading- when I want to read something, give a vent to my thoughts reading something peculiar to my interests, then there is nothing better to read but my own creations. So, writing is a way of reading and amusing myself by way of reading what I write. Easy?

What is writing to me?

Well, writing to me is compulsion, compulsion to write. It compels to write- writing compels me to write. As I have earlier written that writing has dynamic meanings for me- hence, particularly even though when I don’t want to write- the germ of writing that I am rearing in me compels me to write. Once you keep on writing, it doesn’t always come out to be a leisure activity- sometimes, it becomes compulsory for you to write for no reason in particular at all. I have to write, that means I have to write- that comes out to be a message from the inner-self with no explanation, no reasoning.

What is writing to me?

Well, writing to me is passion, way of knowing and expressing myself, it is reading to me and henceforth, it is a compulsion to me.

Do tell:- What is writing to you? What does it mean to you?

BENEFITS OF BEING ALONE!

Being alone has its own advantages. Lonely– the word always seemed to have a negative effect on me but since the time, being alone has become a part of my existence, I believe being alone can sometimes be very good for the much necessary peace in the life everyone wants.

Truly speaking, I wasn’t a very social person from the time I had gained some piece of mind and started analyzing things my own way in “some significant way”(because even infants can do so in some not easily understandable way)…

Speaking about one’s nature of spending some time alone, its good… do it sometimes- you’re going to love it. One can find solitary confinement in one’s life even in a room full of people chattering and doing their own stuff- so, it is not necessarily required on your part to find some silent serene place to spend some time with your own being.

So, what I am going to do now is write about some of the common benefits of loneliness which you may be well aware of but I’m sure this post would invoke your thought process-

1. Knowing thyself-

Solitary- being alone- its a wow feeling for me. Why? Because it gives me a chance to talk to myself and further on know myself.

When we are surrounded by so many people responding to each and every circumstance and situation around us, we generally forget the reality of ourselves. We all are different beings– we all have our own needs– we have our own psychological attitude– we all have our own thoughts which are ours and ours alone. But we many times forget this, being engulfed by this world so huge. And when this happens, you get nothing but the prejudiced thoughts, the unknowingly attitude– thus those things which do not belong to you, which are not a part of your conscience.

So, being solitary whether in a busy railway station or in a beautiful meadow- it can bring you close to yourself and that is one thing, one must ought to achieve in one’s life.

2. Relaxation-

Now that’s a very general benefit- relaxation– yes, when one spends some time with oneself, thereby ignoring the “deeds” of the world, it helps in relaxing- soothing you from within.

I have heard relaxation is in talking to family and friends and spending time with them. But I don’t believe so. I think you may feel good for a while when spending time with your loved ones(it is something you must do) but still, relaxation in real sense is achieved by “closing yourself in a closet”, because this is the time when you don’t have to hear the nuisance of the whole damn world.

So, relaxation is something one can achieve by being solitary for a while everyday.

3. Effective control over oneself-

Huh?– Yes, I also thought the same. How can one gain effective control over oneself by being solitary?

Here’s the answer- first of all when you’re crazily angry over someone, then there’s a great probability that you would lose control over yourself and you’re definitely going to swear, fight, try to lose your anger over someone and may be everyone. In such cases, it is said one must try to gain control over oneself by talking to someone trustworthy and telling them about your entire situation. But why is there need of someone else, when you have your best friend of the entire eternity residing in you. Right? So by being solitary even for a while, one can gain effective control over one’s actions- over one’s thoughts- just merely by being with oneself away from the artificial and material world.

HENCE, these were some of the common benefits of being lonely or solitary or one can say adopting loneliness for a while in one’s life.

A word of caution:- Yes, give some time to yourself- remain alone for sometime, not much of the time, that would definitely make you vulnerable towards the whims of the “villains” of the world. Still, loneliness in limited manner is very very good.