Be A Good Listener!

I am a good listener and that is one of the qualities very difficult to find. Whenever some person is sharing a piece of his/her life with me, telling me about their feelings- their thought process, how they are- I very patiently listen to them, rather than butting my way in between. But I have tried to talk to some people and these people- I just don’t know how to write this, but they are so foolish that they don’t know when someone is going through a hard time and is finally opening himself in front of you, you must become dumb for at least that moment, letting the person complete; instead of convincing them that your problems are the same or sometimes even more severe than the other person. Come on buddy, that is common sense!

It is important for you to be a good listener– Here I am trying to figure out the necessity behind this particular notion. And what I have found out is enlisted as follows-

1. Trust– If you are a good listener, people would not mind confiding in front of you, thereby giving rise to a trust factor. And we all know that trust is something which is very hard to achieve and it is for your own good if you achieve someone’s trust.

2. You hear more– Wow, that is so simple. If you are a good listener, you will hear more. That is so true, isn’t it? Sometimes people who just want to blabber out rather than being a good listener may miss something important being said to them and they would then have to deal with the outcomes.

3. Patience– Being a good listener inculcates the virtue of patience in you. If you tend to be patient enough that you listen completely to what the other person is saying to you, it would be for your own good because that would ultimately make you patient in every work you do.

4. You become likeable– You become likeable when you let others speak their hearts out. People would definitely like you now and would definitely consider you an “understanding” personality. And how good is that!?

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Patience

Getting an all of a sudden urge to write, I’m here trying to write. I was just reading a book “Eat Pray Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert and I got restless since the pace of the book is quite slow and I’m very impatient and I always want to discover more and more in the least bit of time. And that gets me to what I would be writing about today- Patience, a quality I haven’t embraced in my life so far but I can write about it for my benefit as well as that of some one reading this post.

Ok,

Patience- I think Patience means

 “controlling the wild spirit that bestows in you and tries to make the things rushed up, it would be an art of controlling your wild self”.

  That is what I mean when I say the word patience. You might be having your own version of the meaning or you might have got stuck with the dictionary meaning of patience, which by the way I never do care to learn word to word. 

So, patience- why do we require it to be a part of our lives? Why do we want to restrict the wild being of our being which wants the things to be rushed up? Well, I like things when they change constantly, when they are rushed up. Don’t you? But still I want patience in me and many others also do want it to be a regular part of their selves. Why? Well, the simple answer might be that the patience reduces the burden of things. When you’re rushing up your life, things might get tangled in the phases of time or they might get a little destructive which makes me ask- can patience subdue this rushing up effects in our lives?- the answer of which I don’t know as per now.

Sloooooow

Still, what I think I know is that the patience is good… yes, it is good for being patient makes you see life with a different and slow perspective. This life is worth living, that book is worth reading- hence, patience would bring forth a new mindset that would let you enjoy the life bit by bit and let me enjoy the book bit by bit. Isn’t it so?

Patience can behold the destructiveness stormy attitude you form while being rushed up. Well, I would be opposing my aforesaid statement but I think rushing up won’t bring about the so-called destructiveness stormy attitude I have myself quoted(crazy, isn’t it?) necessarily and patience can’t necessarily subdue this so-called destructiveness stormy attitude. (Ha! I’m tired of writing this big phrase) But patience can help you being patient which is an achievement of inner most rest that you can give to your enraging inner-self, well, agree or not, but there is a side of you which is always enraging- flaring up to make things go faster at one point or the other.

You can call yourself completely patient, but I know there comes a time when every one just gets so much enraged(by their enraging inner-self) that they can’t be patient any more which brings me further to my next question- Is patience a way to lead your life?

Well, I don’t think so. Patience isn’t a way of leading your life, it is just a method of easing the pace of your life which is good in itself but can be better if a little amount of patience is embraced in the life.

Hence, I am going to learn some patience, accepting it in my inner-being to subdue its enraging side somehow for any bit of a small moment, to enjoy life, to see life through a new perspective, to reduce the burden, to just let go and feel somewhat eased.

What do you think?