Being alone has its own advantages. Lonely– the word always seemed to have a negative effect on me but since the time, being alone has become a part of my existence, I believe being alone can sometimes be very good for the much necessary peace in the life everyone wants.
Truly speaking, I wasn’t a very social person from the time I had gained some piece of mind and started analyzing things my own way in “some significant way”(because even infants can do so in some not easily understandable way)…
Speaking about one’s nature of spending some time alone, its good… do it sometimes- you’re going to love it. One can find solitary confinement in one’s life even in a room full of people chattering and doing their own stuff- so, it is not necessarily required on your part to find some silent serene place to spend some time with your own being.
So, what I am going to do now is write about some of the common benefits of loneliness which you may be well aware of but I’m sure this post would invoke your thought process-
1. Knowing thyself-
Solitary- being alone- its a wow feeling for me. Why? Because it gives me a chance to talk to myself and further on know myself.
When we are surrounded by so many people responding to each and every circumstance and situation around us, we generally forget the reality of ourselves. We all are different beings– we all have our own needs– we have our own psychological attitude– we all have our own thoughts which are ours and ours alone. But we many times forget this, being engulfed by this world so huge. And when this happens, you get nothing but the prejudiced thoughts, the unknowingly attitude– thus those things which do not belong to you, which are not a part of your conscience.
So, being solitary whether in a busy railway station or in a beautiful meadow- it can bring you close to yourself and that is one thing, one must ought to achieve in one’s life.
Now that’s a very general benefit- relaxation– yes, when one spends some time with oneself, thereby ignoring the “deeds” of the world, it helps in relaxing- soothing you from within.
I have heard relaxation is in talking to family and friends and spending time with them. But I don’t believe so. I think you may feel good for a while when spending time with your loved ones(it is something you must do) but still, relaxation in real sense is achieved by “closing yourself in a closet”, because this is the time when you don’t have to hear the nuisance of the whole damn world.
So, relaxation is something one can achieve by being solitary for a while everyday.
3. Effective control over oneself-
Huh?– Yes, I also thought the same. How can one gain effective control over oneself by being solitary?
Here’s the answer- first of all when you’re crazily angry over someone, then there’s a great probability that you would lose control over yourself and you’re definitely going to swear, fight, try to lose your anger over someone and may be everyone. In such cases, it is said one must try to gain control over oneself by talking to someone trustworthy and telling them about your entire situation. But why is there need of someone else, when you have your best friend of the entire eternity residing in you. Right? So by being solitary even for a while, one can gain effective control over one’s actions- over one’s thoughts- just merely by being with oneself away from the artificial and material world.
HENCE, these were some of the common benefits of being lonely or solitary or one can say adopting loneliness for a while in one’s life.
A word of caution:- Yes, give some time to yourself- remain alone for sometime, not much of the time, that would definitely make you vulnerable towards the whims of the “villains” of the world. Still, loneliness in limited manner is very very good.